Moving Through the Darkness with Light Energy

Navigating Grief with Energy Work

There is no end date on grief and there is no right way to do grief. It’s hard. It’s different for every one of us. It can be very dark.

When my son, Max died grief often felt like ocean waves. It was as if I was standing in the water and the pain and darkness would come over me like a wave. It would envelop me like the sea, and then quietly recede just long enough for me to gasp for air. And then out of nowhere, the next wave would hit.

There was an undertow too. Some days it felt like I had made some progress back to shore. But then the undertow would tug at me and I could feel my feet dragging backwards slightly.

As deep as I was in despair, I also felt fortunate; because I knew not every one felt the dull heat. During even the darkest days, I felt a warm coal inside my heart. It felt like an ember. And I knew that it was hope. That no matter how broken I felt, I knew that we were meant to keep moving forward. I also knew that moving forward looked very different than where I’d come from. My gate would never be the same, my “normal” would be re-written.

A good friend of mine gave me the name of a woman. She couldn’t tell me what she did but she said she thought her sessions would help. I called her and told her my story, she said she could help.  I lay on her table week after week never asking what it was she was doing. I didn’t need to know. All I needed was the feeling of that warm ember. It’s difficult to explain what I experienced, it was as if the darkness was cracked open little by little and I was able to sit in it a little easier and then step forward, bit by bit. I left my sessions feeling relaxed, even a little rejuvenated. I could breath. I felt connected. To Max. To everything. I was reminded in those silent sessions, that we were all connected.

It was months later that I finally asked her what she was doing in my sessions. And it was then that I knew I needed to know more about Reiki. I wanted to help others navigate loss and so a few years later, I pursued a career change and became a Reiki Master and Certified Hypnotist.

No matter what kind of grief you are experiencing Reiki can help. It’s within the Reiki sessions when your body, mind and energy connect, where your energy pathways are cleared and the imbalances of Ki are corrected. This balance allows the body to function more effectively and promote healing. Reiki treats the whole person including body, emotions, mind and spirit creating a sense of relaxation, feelings of calm, peace, security and wellbeing.

If you would like to discuss Reiki or Hypnosis you can reach me at or at 503-890-1642.



Reconnecting in the New Year

As you take time to reflect on 2017 and all that you have experienced and learned take time to appreciate and feel gratitude for all of your life’s lessons. No matter where our paths have taken us and where they will lead us, we can find gratitude in our experiences and mine them for lessons to enrich our futures.

When you follow your heart and allow yourself to feel your way through the world, your path will unfold more easily and joyfully. This is something I have to remind myself of and nothing makes it more clear that I have to refocus and recenter than when I feel disconnected, full of doubt or anxious.

Trust your feelings, they are tell signs. When we are calm and centered and joyful, we are in balance. When we feel bad, angry, uneasy, we are not in balance – we are out of alignment with our truths.

Reconnect in the New Year and every day. Take time to:
– Meditate, however that looks to you it doesn’t need to be complicated or too time consuming
– Reconnect with nature and physically connect to the earth – walk barefoot, sit or lay on the ground
– Eat well – choose foods that nourish your body, avoid processed and fake foods
– Smile and feel gratitude. Truly feel this — take time to envision a grateful heart.

Life lessons can be beautiful and they can be painful, choosing how to respond to the experience is what creates the next steps in our path.